“Death of a Revolutionary” by Susan Faludi (The New Yorker, April 15, 2013)
When I looked up from my breakfast, astonished, my partner said no women were allowed in any bar, unless they were escorted by men. I’d seen the signs labelled “men’s entrance” and as a Catholic school girl who marched into buildings under the “girls’ entrance” signs, I’d always assumed the “ladies’ entrance” to these bars was just around the corner, temporarily out of my sight. He told me that with a date, he was allowed to enter under the “ladies with escorts” sign. Inside was a dark and dismal room, tiny, with just a scattering of tables, lonely and echoing, unlike the huge and lively area given over to the men.
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Up till this morning, I believed that in the old days (ie
mid sixties and before) that since many bars had a separate entrance for “ladies and
escorts” then clearly they also had one large room full of raucous women slamming down the drink,
since they were without escorts. All
these years I’ve been a little wistful that I never joined that merry group,
unfettered by the disapproving or needy glances of the menfolk.
Over breakfast I happened to be reading my latest issue of The New Yorker, which has an article
about Shulamith Firestone: “Death of a Revolutionary”. Shulamith was not much older than I. While I was joining those imbibing and joyous women in my imagination, as late as 1969, she was occupying restaurants that would not
serve “unescorted’ women. When I looked up from my breakfast, astonished, my partner said no women were allowed in any bar, unless they were escorted by men. I’d seen the signs labelled “men’s entrance” and as a Catholic school girl who marched into buildings under the “girls’ entrance” signs, I’d always assumed the “ladies’ entrance” to these bars was just around the corner, temporarily out of my sight. He told me that with a date, he was allowed to enter under the “ladies with escorts” sign. Inside was a dark and dismal room, tiny, with just a scattering of tables, lonely and echoing, unlike the huge and lively area given over to the men.
There was no “ladies” entrance. No women were allowed at all, unless
escorted, not by each other, but by males.
I suppose any male would do.
How did I not know I was simply ‘not allowed’? In the late 60s, a time that I consider full
of long haired men bringing cups of herbal tea to their womenfolk, supposedly
liberal in fact radical left wing men were shouting statements like “Take her
off the stage and fuck her!” and “Fuck her down a dark alley!” at the New
Left’s Counter-Inaugural to Richard Nixon’s first Inauguration in Washington,
DC. No, these were not red necks in some
tavern in southern Idaho. These were
those very men I would assume would bring me cups of herbal tea, muttering the
phrase, “right on” every time I said something feminist, wise and philosophical.
I lived in New York City in the early '70s and recall reading the
various radical newspapers. I remember
an article by an African American woman saying that feminism was for affluent
white women, and no one else. I didn’t
believe it, and I also remember how many older women blanched in horror at the
thought of being labelled a feminist. I
proudly proclaimed myself to be a feminist, assuming all correct thinking
people were, albeit young, white and affluent, I suppose… I didn’t enroll in a Women’s Studies course
at university, because I assumed I already knew it all. I assumed the courses were mostly for (long
haired liberal in fact radical left wing) men looking to impress the women in
their lives. I recall one such person
wistfully telling me that there were lively discussions on masturbation in his
Women’s Studies classes, and I remained stoically unimpressed that he was
taking the course, since clearly he was just looking for a wife. Who would most certainly not be me.
It was women like Firestone who endured in order for there
to be Women’s Studies courses at the City University of New York, something I
took so for granted.
Had I become formally involved with the movement, where I
was at the epicentre, I would have learned of the viciousness not just of men
hurling abuse at women, but of women tearing down each other. While I was quite aware of slogans like
“Sisterhood is Powerful” I had no idea that women became so involved in
fractional and spiteful politics toward one another. But I confess it doesn't terribly surprise me. We still have a long way to go, but so do men, as that goes.
Of course I knew that at the heart of the Women’s Movement
lay equal pay for equal work, and even equal opportunity. I had long been resentful that women made far
less money than men, even when doing the identical job. It still exists to an extent. Universities may be full of women
overcrowding the men, but the outcomes are different. When men were in the majority taking a degree
in medicine, it was understood that financially they would be very well
off. Now that the majority of people
taking a degree in medicine are women, the aspects of financial success have
lessened.
In my family, the women were always in charge. My great grandmother became a mid-wife, and at
seventeen years of age purchased tickets for herself and her fourteen year old
sister to leave Ireland and go to Oregon, via ship then train, and finally wagon. Within a few years of living in Oregon she’d
saved enough to buy real estate. Her
husband (whom she met in Oregon) never had to work. He collected rents from her tenants. She instructed her daughters to never learn
to cook. Instead they were to marry men
wealthy enough to hire cooks. My
grandmother was the epitome of filial obedience in that department. She boasted that she couldn't boil an egg. She in turn taught her daughters the same
cooking lessons, although mine didn’t marry a man wealthy enough to hire
servants. Therefore my mother taught me only
one domestic lesson: if you should ever see your mother-in-law
coming up the sidewalk when you’re not expecting her, run the sink with hot
water and lots of soap. Throw all the
dirty stuff into it you can. What doesn't fit must be stuffed into the oven.
Warning: always look in the oven before attempting to use it.
Don’t think for a minute I’ve become completely slovenly,
my kitchen filthy and that I've even given up on novels, by the way.
I’m still reading, I just haven’t read a book that seems to fit my theme
here. Having recently finished Anna Karenina, I complained that Tolstoy
should have found a better editor. It
has the seed of such a good book. Too
bad he didn’t rein himself in better. I
would be recommending that one for its feminist philosophy, but it ultimately
stretched my patience with unnecessary details about minor characters, and the
politics of Russia. Poor Russia. He certainly understood women well, though. Even his female dogs are brighter than his male characters.
We Need to Talk about Kevin by Lionel Shriver is another compelling
feminist manifesto, especially in its examination of the tyranny of women’s
enslavement to their own fettered children, but ultimately that one was just
too implausible to recommend.
Apparently Firestone analyzed how constraining and
regulating children in modern society , increasing and exaggerating their
dependence, also limited women more and more.
One of Firestone’s few accolades at the time came from Simone de
Beauvoir who told Ms. Magazine that Firestone was onto something new in that
she associated Women’s Liberation with children’s liberation. The full text for Faludi's article on Shulamith Firestone is here. You don't need to subscribe to The New Yorker, but you should. It's brilliant.If you've recently read an excellent novel that underscores these themes, please let me know! I have to get downstairs, to the dishes...
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